Men’s rights in Islam.
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Oh yes you read it right. I didn’t forget any woe-some ‘wo’ anywhere. I am here doing a little research on men’s rights in Islam.

Its been a very suffocating and frustrating experience being labeled as a “feminist” just because I question the way the position of men has been portrayed in our society.

There was a time when I used to argue with any Little Tom, Mr.Dick and Uncle Harry, not to speak of Little Beth, Miss Susan and Aunty Betty. And then I realized that its pointless – simply because you can’t argue with walls.

And I have given up on reading from volumes and volumes that speak of women’s rights (sometimes speaking more in terms of duties) in Islam (which is, simply put, submission to God alone), because it is quite simple really.

What many people unfortunately don’t realize, much to my distaste and their own misunderstood definition of life, is that the rights and duties of human beings lies in the different roles that they play. They differ and compliment each other.

As an individual, each human being is equal and has same rights. It is only when it comes to the roles that they play that the job-scope, job-responsibility differs. It is pretty simple if you really were to think of it. But we human beings have our way of making simple things so complex and difficult that we end up fighting over the things that we all logically agree to.

For Muslim men and women,- for believing men and women, for devout men and women, for true men and women, for men and women who are patient and constant, for men and women who humble themselves, for men and women who give in Charity, for men and women who fast (and deny themselves), for men and women who guard their chastity, and for men and women who engage much in Allah’s praise,- for them has Allah prepared forgiveness and great reward. (Quran 33:35)

Ah! Now isn’t that beautiful. SubhanAllah! So all those freaked out men who think Islam has given them an upper hand, and all those freaked out women who think Islam is making them second class citizens – please READ and THINK!

So since all of you can read volumes about women’s rights in Islam, I think a little note on men’s rights ought to be there. InshaAllah one day I will dedicate a book on this … (that is one of my long term plans… oh.. plz dont steal my idea…:( ), but now I am going to put it in a little note for you all to read through and comment.

Man as an individual
Man’s rights as an individual are no different from that of a woman. Just like women, men too have to pray 5 times a day, fast the whole month of Ramadan, give charity, go to Hajj (if they have the means to).
(Note: Though women are absolved from praying and fasting on certain days due to their special needs, men have no such privileges.)
Also, the same rules apply to men and women when it comes to speaking the truth always, not backbiting, being honest and all the good good deeds. Also, just like women, they have right to work and earn a living through that work.

Man as a son
The first role that every human being takes is that of a child. As a child, just like women, men have to be good to their parents, to take care of them, to be especially kind to the mothers, and other good things.
However, in addition to these duties, men are also supposed to financially support the parents, and sisters( if they are unmarried, for if they are married their husbands are supposed to do that).

Man as a husband
This is a very special role that a man takes upon himself, and obviously his role is different from that of women counterparts.
First, to get married, the man must first prove his ability and serious intention to take care of the family that this marriage would lead to. So, he must provide the wife “mehr” (an amount of money that is demanded by the bride [btw, there is no limit to the amount that can be specified]).
Now that he has got his wife and the nikah (the marriage agreement) has been signed in front of witnesses, the man has to provide a feast to the people. This marriage feast called ‘walima’ doesn’t have to be an elaborate affair, but it is meant to announce and rejoice in the marriage.
With the wife brought home, the husband has to provide for her. Men have to protect (cool.. if a lion attacks, the man must risk his life to save the wife… cool.. this is religious obligation)

men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given the one more (strength) than the other, and because they support them from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husband’s) absence what Allah would have them guard. As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (Next), refuse to share their beds, (And last) beat them (lightly); but if they return to obedience, seek not against them Means (of annoyance): For Allah is Most High, great (above you all). (Quran 4:34 )

Well did u read it properly.. did u read “beat” and get that grin on your face? If you grinned and thought men are supposed to beat up their wifes, shame on you. If you really understood what this meant, you would be saying just as I do.. subhanAllah!.
What is asked of women is to be loyal to their husbands – and it is in extreme cases when women tend to cheat on thier husbands, that men must do something to fix the case. So a guideline is laid for them
– first admonish them
– then refuse to share bed with them
– then beat (actually it is not more than a tap with a stick as big as a toothbrush as explained by the blessed Prophet).

So even in such serious matters where men can and do tend to loose their heads, Islam puts a restrain and sets a limit.

Anyways, since Muslim women are expected to be (and generally are, alhamdulillah) loyal to their husbands, this is to speak of fixing a problem. What we all need to focus on is the fact that the man is responsible to providing for the women. If you would like to get more information on that I suggest you listen to Shiekh Yusuf Estes (Oh, I absolutely adore this man.)

Anyways, if i were to talk of the responsibility of man towards his wife in the role of a husband, that alone would need a book.. but this is just a starter … so we shall leave the delicacies for the book.

Man as a father
As a father again, man has many many responsibilities. The man must provide for all the financial needs for the children alone. However, just like women men have to take care of the children, and ensure proper education of the children catering to their need for affection and love.
Even in case of divorce, the man is supposed to provide for the children regarding food, clothing, schooling, and health expenses according to the father’s standard of life.

What I have put together here in this small note is what Islam requires of men. Because Allah made us, He understands us best. He is compassionate and full of Mercy.

And He has asked us to deal with each other with love and affection. All humans – men & women – have been asked to keep faith and do good deeds.

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  1. Mubashir Hameed
    Posted March 28, 2007 at 6:56 am | Permalink

    A/a Writer,
    Well, you have written a good very good article on “Men’s Right in Islam”. I really appreciate it. The best part of this article is reference quotes from Surat “Nisa”(Women in Arabic Language).

    There are many other rights in Islam regarding men and i suggest you put them all. That will make people(men) understand well about their rights. Also, that will make people(Men) understand to respect Women folk.

    Allah Bless You Sister,

  2. Abu Sadat Nurullah
    Posted March 28, 2007 at 7:47 am | Permalink

    The main point here, in my view, is that in terms of responsibilities, men and women play complementary roles (I’m taking structural functionalist point of view from sociology). But in terms of rights, both are the same. That’s the beauty of it.

  3. fariya
    Posted March 28, 2007 at 9:12 am | Permalink

    So true..Men too have their duties like women though the roles may be different..Islam is the only religion to give equality and we should respect it ..such articles should be encouraged!

  4. Liberal Indian
    Posted June 20, 2007 at 10:08 pm | Permalink

    Good one. Can you also write on why women in Saudi Arabia, the heart of Islam, have so many fewer rights than men? Is it because those mullahs haven’t really read the script properly? Just wondering…

  5. Posted June 21, 2007 at 3:37 am | Permalink

    First, we are dealing with a generalization (and its just a matter of different yardsticks to measure rights – e.g. while I consider wearing Hijab my right, some might consider it curtailment of right ).

    However, I do agree that women in Saudi (or for that matter anywhere) are not given all the rights that are due to them.

    The reasons are pretty simple – ignorance, ignorance, ignorance – on part of both men and women.

  6. Ameer
    Posted October 8, 2007 at 4:46 am | Permalink

    Without mentioning the right that men have on their wives to the full extent we have done some injustice. And although ignorance and evil has pushed us all towards what is wrong and there are very limited living examples of what living right would be, Islam has provided the solution. Pleasing the husband to the extent that her salat is not accepted with his displeasure. This means a sincere and continuous effort to earn that pleasure. With the limit being that she cannot displease Allah to please him.

  7. Posted October 11, 2007 at 3:26 am | Permalink

    It is truly unfortunate, that men conveniently remember only those ‘sayings’ which are so very flattering to their egos.

    I make it very clear that the post is NOT comprehensive. To do justice to the topic, requires that I do a proper research and I write a book. But till I write the book, this was meant to be a little something to remind men that their rights on women dont come without corresponding duties; and also to remind the women of the way Islam caters to their special needs.

    Please correct me where I am wrong. And please quote ahadith where you wish to add a point. I am quite skeptical about the pro-men ‘sayings’ that are attributed to the Prophet (saw).

    and well, Ramadan Kareem!

  8. Khalid
    Posted November 11, 2007 at 9:19 am | Permalink

    Nice article.

  9. amouria
    Posted June 2, 2009 at 9:08 pm | Permalink

    wallahi, you did not make justice to the subject, not at all. Either you write with enough knowledge about it or not.
    If I were you, i would trace the history of the subject; how it was made and remade to appear as if the Quran has said this (specifically this not that) way of life. Some people say that Islam is the most secular religion on earth because it is all in the hands of its people. if that is so, then who are these people? what kinds of power relation was dominant? and why? for what political and economic reasons. Doing such research will allow you to look beyond religion or islam….after all, islam is like any system of ideas, can be used/ abused by its people and others. Currently it is the latter usage, both by its people and others.
    thanks any for sharing your views.

  10. Solomon
    Posted August 22, 2010 at 10:30 am | Permalink

    How does the man prevent himself becoming a walking pay check for his wivies? They can get a free ride in life because they are female. They can do nothing at home.

  11. Osama
    Posted April 9, 2011 at 10:18 pm | Permalink

    Dear Brother,
    Thank you for writing such a beautiful article. But i would say that the title of the article is misguiding. As it suggests “the rights of men” but you have discussed only their duties. none of the rights have been discussed. Feel a little disappointed abt it.

    • Posted April 28, 2011 at 10:51 am | Permalink

      🙂 Dear Brother,
      Rights and duties work together and these are linked. I shall write more.. 🙂 inshaAllah we can add up and write more about the duties and the rights together..

  12. asma khan
    Posted April 23, 2011 at 1:14 pm | Permalink

    Allaha know better and Allah is All-Knower, All- Wise.

  13. asma khan
    Posted April 23, 2011 at 1:16 pm | Permalink

    Allah know better and Allah is All-Know er, All- Wise.

  14. Posted June 14, 2011 at 6:44 pm | Permalink

    hey, well done skooter…..iam a christian male, from Pakistan and i was just doing a research on the rights of men and women in different religions, and i came across this article, your article is just amazing!

    truly, after reading this article my respect for Islam has increased more. thanks to you again! God bless you!

  15. Posted January 13, 2012 at 9:37 pm | Permalink

    The One thing I really appreciated about this article is that it focuses on *Men’s Rights (Finally) I believe a focus on any singular gender’s rights limits the gender’s actual rights. All this talk about women’s rights is only placing further limits on womyn because there’s this backlash notion that if there are womyn’s rights as explained in the Quran then everything else isn’t a right womyn should/do have. This makes it clear that like womyn men are bound/limit to the specified rights given to them in the Quran, however I remember reading I’m not sure if its from the Quran that for laws unspecified in the Quran we should make our laws with regards to human nature. I completely agree with that, Islam is a fair and just religion, people are not and unfortunately people make up the religious community. If the Quran gives men and womyn certain rights and limitations its pointless if we are not aware of them because we cannot function within them. Also wording has a lot to do in influencing the general public’s regard to gender and gender status, in Islam there is a general positive association granted to men more frequently than womyn (in fact only womyn who are seen as adhering to the most conservative of religious practices are regarded respectably.) Because Allah has given both womyen and man their roles and responsibility and clearly stated their equality in all spheres that truly matter, it is plain hypocrisy for us as mortals to alter those given mandates because of our weaker natures.

  16. Aarfa
    Posted January 30, 2013 at 7:31 pm | Permalink

    All goodie goodie, but I need I need a clarification.
    The fact that man has the final say and a woman cannot go out without his permission, can this not come in the way of women to pursue her right to earn or serve her parents?
    Also a girl can’t stay with her parents after marriage but a boy can.
    Again, can a woman rebuke or beat (lightly) his husband if he is being disloyal?

    • Sakooter
      Posted January 31, 2013 at 5:38 am | Permalink

      1. Man has the final say – yes and it can come in the way of women’s rights, and has in many situations. However, suppose we get away with this ‘men having final say’ and leave it at both have final say – will ever an agreement reach? Its part of decision making process. If both were to disagree and both were to do as they wish, will there be a common ground – wouldn’t it break the family structure? Its like allowing two leaders to lead a country. Hope I made sense.

      I am writing another article – give me a few days. hopefully it will answer your other questions. 🙂