With this set as the main idea of what husband and wife are supposed to be to each other, lets look at the specific application — and it is love that we shall talk of!
The little acts of love:
The little acts of love that bring charm to the relationship are essential to make one feel appreciated and loved. We know from the life of the Prophet (saw), that he did simple and really sweet things for his wives that we all should learn from.
He used to put his thigh as a step so that Safiyah his wife could get on the camel. [Really sweet, don’t you think so?]. He found time to go to the desert and race with his wife Aisha. Not only that, he would take his wife to watch the young Ethiopians playing and dancing their folk dances. When the Prophet (saw) was in seclusion (i’tikaf), he would lean his head towards ‘A’ishah, and she would comb and wash his hair.
“When a camel was brought for him to ride, the Prophet, salallahu alaihee wa salam (first) lifted his thigh to act as steps for Safiyah to get on the camel.”
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 118: Narrated ‘Ursa: Aisha said, “While the Ethiopians were playing with their small spears, Allah’s Apostle screened me behind him and I watched (that display) and kept on watching till I left on my own.” So you may estimate of what age a little girl may listen to amusement.
Narrated by Aisha : While she was on a journey along with the Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him): I had a race with him (the Prophet) and I outstripped him on my feet. When I became fleshy, (again) I had a race with him (the Prophet) and he outstripped me. He said: This is for that outstripping. Sunan Abu Dawood – Book 14, Number 2572
As the Prophet (saws) said:
“One would be rewarded for anything that he does seeking the pleasure of God
even the food that he puts in the mouth of his wife”.
Bukhari and Muslim both report this in sahih hadith narrated from ‘A’ishah (May Allah be pleased with her), such as: “When Allah’s Messenger (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) was in i’tikaf, he inclined his head towards me and I combed his hair, and he did not enter the house except to answer the call of nature.” Sahih Muslim, 3/208, Kitab al-hayd, bab jawaz ghusl al-ha’id ra’as zawjiha wa tarjiluhu.
The best for your mate:
It is only natural that you would want the best for the one you love. Doing things for your spouse that make your relationship special and exclusive is essential. When you get a gift for your spouse get something that he/she really would love. We know that when Aisha(ra) used to get perfume for her husband, she would make sure that she’d get the best of perfumes for him.
“I applied perfume to Allah’s Messenger (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) with myown hands before he entered the state of ihram and when he concluded it before circumambulating the House.” Sahih Muslim, 8/99, kitab al-Hajj, bab istihbab al-tib qabl al-ihram.
“I applied perfume to Allah’s Messenger (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) with these two hands of mine when he entered ihram and when he concluded it, before he performed tawaf,” – and she spread her hands. Fath al-Bari, 3/585, Kitab al-Hajj, bab al-tib.
“I asked ‘A’ishah, ‘With what did you perfume Allah’s Messenger (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) at the time when he entered ihram?’ She said, ‘With the best of perfume.’” Sahih Muslim, 8/100, kitab al-Hajj, bab istihbab al-tib qabl al-ihram.