With this set as the main idea of what husband and wife are supposed to be to each other, lets look at the specific application — and it is love that we shall talk of!
The little acts of love:
The little acts of love that bring charm to the relationship are essential to make one feel appreciated and loved. We know from the life of the Prophet (saw), that he did simple and really sweet things for his wives that we all should learn from.
He used to put his thigh as a step so that Safiyah his wife could get on the camel. [Really sweet, don’t you think so?]. He found time to go to the desert and race with his wife Aisha. Not only that, he would take his wife to watch the young Ethiopians playing and dancing their folk dances. When the Prophet (saw) was in seclusion (i’tikaf), he would lean his head towards ‘A’ishah, and she would comb and wash his hair.
“When a camel was brought for him to ride, the Prophet, salallahu alaihee wa salam (first) lifted his thigh to act as steps for Safiyah to get on the camel.”
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 118: Narrated ‘Ursa: Aisha said, “While the Ethiopians were playing with their small spears, Allah’s Apostle screened me behind him and I watched (that display) and kept on watching till I left on my own.” So you may estimate of what age a little girl may listen to amusement.
Narrated by Aisha : While she was on a journey along with the Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him): I had a race with him (the Prophet) and I outstripped him on my feet. When I became fleshy, (again) I had a race with him (the Prophet) and he outstripped me. He said: This is for that outstripping. Sunan Abu Dawood – Book 14, Number 2572
As the Prophet (saws) said:
“One would be rewarded for anything that he does seeking the pleasure of God
even the food that he puts in the mouth of his wife”.
Bukhari and Muslim both report this in sahih hadith narrated from ‘A’ishah (May Allah be pleased with her), such as: “When Allah’s Messenger (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) was in i’tikaf, he inclined his head towards me and I combed his hair, and he did not enter the house except to answer the call of nature.” Sahih Muslim, 3/208, Kitab al-hayd, bab jawaz ghusl al-ha’id ra’as zawjiha wa tarjiluhu.
The best for your mate:
It is only natural that you would want the best for the one you love. Doing things for your spouse that make your relationship special and exclusive is essential. When you get a gift for your spouse get something that he/she really would love. We know that when Aisha(ra) used to get perfume for her husband, she would make sure that she’d get the best of perfumes for him.
“I applied perfume to Allah’s Messenger (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) with myown hands before he entered the state of ihram and when he concluded it before circumambulating the House.” Sahih Muslim, 8/99, kitab al-Hajj, bab istihbab al-tib qabl al-ihram.
“I applied perfume to Allah’s Messenger (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) with these two hands of mine when he entered ihram and when he concluded it, before he performed tawaf,” – and she spread her hands. Fath al-Bari, 3/585, Kitab al-Hajj, bab al-tib.
“I asked ‘A’ishah, ‘With what did you perfume Allah’s Messenger (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) at the time when he entered ihram?’ She said, ‘With the best of perfume.’” Sahih Muslim, 8/100, kitab al-Hajj, bab istihbab al-tib qabl al-ihram.
15 thoughts on “Romance in Islam”
”Bringing flowers for your loved one, looking beautiful for your mate, having a candle-light dinner with your mate.”
How does that happen without dating/knowing closely someone before marriage? It’s natural that after marriage the husband and wife can/should have romantic relationship. Does that mean you should not know the (future) spouse well before marriage?
SubhanAllah, for such n enlightening masterpiece. i truly believe dat if we follow the path of Islam, nothing will go wrong in any way.
Allah bless us all, Ameen Suma Ameen on the right path of Islam.
Good work asma.Actually i think that our mullah,s have interpreted the quran in a such a way to actually so as make it immensely hard to follow the right path .I believe it is extremely important for all of us to read Quran in order to understand our religion ,how intricately every dimension of life has been addressed.
I would take a moment here to especially emphasize on the rights of women in Islam and their rights with respect to marriage the highest form of love and affection between a man and a woman.
It is very important for women to know their rights in the light of Quran with respect to marriage (love and affection)and not just be driven into a life long relationship with any man just because the society has set up some insane rules and framed them as righteous.,the rules which are not even near to what our holy book has laid for us .They have every right and say in their marriages and cannot be be driven into bond without any affection just because their parents think it is right for them.Respecting your parents is one thing but don,t forget to execute your rights which Almighty Allah has given you becuase he knows everything the best.
When we go through Quran we get to know how strong and inspiring the women of that era were and how involved they were in shaping the lifes of everyone around them.So be strong and be proud of your existence
May Allah guide us all and show us the right path.
Bismi Allahi Rehmani Raheem,
Maula ya Salli Wasalim daayiman Abadanm Alla habeebika Khyrin Khalki Kulliheme!
Allahumma Innie Zalamtu nafsi zulman kaseera Wala Yagfir Zanuba Illa Anta fagfirli Magfiratan min Indika Innaka Anta gafooru Raheem!
Dears brothers and sisters,
I am immensely pleased with the way you have presented the Quranic and Hadithic interpretation of Love, Marriage and Romance.
Very few people infact know what Love , Marraige and Romance mean.? But I would like to make two points over here.
1. Some people need bookish knowledge to have these kinds of attributes in their life. I mean they need to go through hadiths and Holy books like Quran to chip in to it. This is what you people have done marvellously.
2. But there are some people who are naturally blessed with all these true attributes of Holy Quran and hadiths are just circulating in them with out even knowing what they are naturally equipped with.
Therefore if you want to know how the things of Love, Romance and marriage have been depicted and mentioned in Quran and reflected in various authentic Hadiths of NabiRehmat SAW in a perfect way.
The best way is to find a true person with true heart or see where one’s heart stands in that perspective if you want to check your ownself .
To me the person who has true heart and has paak intentions has these elements ( Islamic / hadthic things) well settled in his/her blood in a synergistic fashion. That kind of person is just the emulation of True and Muqadas characteristics of Prophet Muhammad SAW.
one thing is that it is difficult to recognise such people because they hardly usher their prime traits of truthfulness. Mostly They prefer to remain unnoticed.
Any way ,
Great work done by you people.
Get married with a righteous Human with righteous soul and paak Heart.
there is the gaurantee where you are gona get the absolute and pure love.
Rest Fee Amani Allah
Rutt Karinaw maula
To all of you who truely understand truthfullness in its real context.
Dear Brothers And Sisters !
It is really good to know that we Muslims are studying the Quran and the Sahih Hadith with understanding and belief.i would like to add that we should stop blaming the Mullahs nad the MolvisAs Quran is an open book for all to read and follow.We put Quran in the best cover ( Gilaf) and place it at the highest Shelf.This practice is to changed.Quran has to be in our Lives ,in our breath and all our acts should reflect the word of Allah.
I really appreciate the work that you people have done.It is like an inspiration to all the people who want to be romantic to their husbands/wives and at the same time it teaches us the the different ways of following the other important aspects of the marriage as well.
Thankyou somuch for puttting forth such information and helping the youth or the newly married couples in understandung eachother and following the religious values to live a good married life.
Aslamm o Alie kum..
main kuch boluga to log kahtay hain ye lo ji arsh ne bolna shroo kiya 🙂 trust me i am not nose poker but i cant stop myself when i find my nation is walking blindly on wrong path
kyaa keru adaat se majboor
1 nimaz ki adaat dalo
2 try to avoid lies
3 respect elders
4be polite always
5 keep your tune low
ajj ke liye itna kafi hain
trust me if we all do it strictly at least lets gv try
ab mujay mulla na bulana 🙂 mene kaha na main adat se majboor hoon
One word.. Beautiful..
Beautiful, meaningful and very helpful.
Now the big question is, how to get both husband and wife to actually love each other initially after their wedding…..especially since they don’t actually “love” or even remotely “know” each other in the first place. Difficulties…difficulties…..
.. Mashallah … really nice
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